• Talk to your partner. Tell him/her how you feel and listen to him/her. No one can read your mind no matter how much you love each other.

• Make sure that you both understand that your relationship is a priority. 

• You may be the busiest person in the world but you need to make time to spend with your loved one.

• Feel good about who you are, it will help you to feel good about your relationship.

• You do need to understand that you both have differences and value those differences.

• Plan to have a healthy & life-long relationship with your partner. Start working on it.

• Lets not criticize or blame each other. Every one is different so, try to listen to each other and solve it with respect.

• We are only human, mistake/misbehavior  will happen. Lets resolve it with kindness and love.

• Respect your partner's sexual desire. Your partner may have a different sex drive.

• Keep your romance alive.  Think about the first time when you two met. Keep the excitement, flowers, gifts and love letters coming.

• Make sure you express yourself and show your commitment to the relationship. Do the things you both enjoy together more often and have fun.

Sexual Intimacy

Definition of  Sexual Intimacy could be different to different people, and this is usually true when two partners try to define sexual intimacy. It is a good practice for couples to write down their definitions of sexual intimacy and compare each other thoughts about it. Each individual can put down what kind of activities did one include as being intimate; how much communication should there be between partners to acknowledge or share an intimate experience; what is the preferred balance between maintaining one's independence and becoming increasingly intimate with a partner. Having couples discuss their views openly, one can learn much about their beliefs, attitudes and preferences regarding intimacy and their sexual relationship.

    Introducing Viagra and more promises of additional new drugs being developed for both men and women sexual dysfunction are a revolutionary advance in the treatment of sexual dysfunction's. But, there are no possibility to be developed a "magic pill" for the more common problem of dysfunctional relationships.  While some couples will surely experience greater intimacy in their relationship as a result of improved sexual functioning brought about by Viagra and other treatments, others will be confronted with the lack of intimacy in their relationships when they have a possible obstacle, like a sexual dysfunction, removed.

     It is important to recognize that while sexual intimacy may be something partners experience together, it need not be the only area in their lives where they share intimacy. There are several other areas where intimacy might be created.  It is unwise to expect any one person to be able to fulfill all of the needs of another person.

     Another important function that a lack of sexual intimacy may serve is to enable a person to avoid feelings of anxiety or low self-esteem that are related to perceived sexual inadequacies. For example, in The New Male Sexuality (1992), Bernie Zilbergeld writes that fear related to "performance anxiety" is the number one reason men give when asked why their sexual relationships are not more satisfactory. Of course, women also may have anxieties or self- doubts about their sexual attractiveness and functioning. 

     The lack of sexual intimacy is driven by a discrepancy in sexual desire (something for which there is not yet a medicine or pill). There are a lot of reasons why an individual may have a low sex drive, it is important to recognize that fluctuations in the quality of our sexual relationships are commonplace even among couples who do not seek treatment. It is normal for couples to struggle with issues related to decreased sexual intimacy at some time in their lives together. The extent to which such couples regain the level of satisfaction with their sexual relationship that they experienced previously is largely dependent on how well they can overcome common barriers to establishing greater intimacy in their general relationship.
 

Almost all people are attracted to each other for different reasons and conditions, a lot of them are entirely unrelated to our sexual needs or compatibility. Some conditions such as personality, physical appearance, age, sex, similarities in education, occupation, background, communication styles, attitudes and beliefs toward life are a few of the factors people consider when choosing partners. After we select a partner with many of the other important qualities we are looking for, we may end up with a partner who may not be naturally most sexually compatible.

     Since we are human and everyone is different, there will always be people who will find themselves in relationships where they have different desire levels for sex and different preferences when it comes to sexual activities than their partner. One may have a high sex drive and has a desire to have sex more frequently than the other. One might want to have sex a few times a week but the other would like to have sex once a week; one might like it when no one is around but the other may prefer when people are in the house; one might want more oral sex than intercourse, the other may not have a desire for oral sex.  These are a few of the differences people may find in their relationships. This kind of behavior between partners may cause no sex life in their relationship which is not a healthy situation for couples.

     In this kind of situation you may compromise with your partner to have sex when both desire to have it.  This often results in the partner with the higher desire level feeling bitter, horny, and loser and the partner with the lower desire level feeling guilty, resentful, and turned off.  This way no one really enjoys their sexual activity entirely and frustration started to grow larger. It could lead to great damage in the relationship.

     You can try to understand each other's desire toward sexual activity and try to come up with a plan such as taking turns. You can take control to do things  your way this time and your partner can take control to do it his/her way next time.  You will start to enjoy sexual activity to the fullest  when it is your time. The same thing goes for your partner as well.

Erectile Dysfunction

A recent study estimates that lot of  men suffer from various degrees of erectile dysfunction. This can range from mild to severe. It is clearly an age-related phenomenon with the prevalence of erectile dysfunction increasing significantly with age. Surprisingly, by the time men reach 40, 5% of them are completely impotent never achieving an erection rigid enough for penetration. Approximately 15% have significant problems achieving or maintaining an erection.

Causes of erectile dysfunction:

In 90% of the cases involving men older than 35, the causes are physical in nature. In men who are younger than 35, it is generally a psychological issue. However, even in the cases of those patients for whom the psychological issues are the primary factor, medical means may be used to help solve the problem. Here are some main reason:

Vascular:  A man must be able to move blood into the penis and maintain it there in order to achieve an erection. Arteries are the vehicles which bring the blood into the penis. Any process which damages the arteries and increases the chances of vascular disease would make a man more likely to have erectile dysfunction. A history of arterial disease (e.g. coronary artery, heart disease, strokes or peripheral vascular disease) indicates that the penile arteries are also at risk. In fact, erectile dysfunction may often appear before any of these more severe manifestations of vessel disease. Thus, smoking is one of the most common contributing causes to erectile dysfunction. Other causes include high blood pressure (especially if it uncontrolled), heart disease, high cholesterol and diabetes.

Neurological: A man must have an intact neurological system in order for an erection to occur. Thus patients with multiple sclerosisor or those who have had damage to their peripheral nerves from diabetes may also suffer from erectile dysfunction.

Hormonal:  Significantly, low testosterone and thyroid hormones or a very high prolactin may cause problems with erections.

Psychological: This can be a primary  problem or a secondary problem. In some cases men may not achieve an erection primarily because of psychological issues. Additionally however, many men have a significant psychological responses  to what is initially a primary physical problem. Once a man loses confidence in his erections, his attitude and interest level may change and diminish. At that point he may develop increasing difficulty achieving and maintaining an erection.

Sex Positions

Sex is like an Art. There are many way to experience it.  There is no right or wrong, just be creative, you will learn as you practice more and more,  which only you can improve.

Now that you know some great positions, remember the key to success is communication  with a bit of variation. Sex can get boring. If you normally prefer to have sex in the morning, try having sex at night. If you normally have sex on the bed, try standing up. Catch your partner by surprise. The most boring thing in the world is if you can predict what your partner will do. If you find yourself never initiating sex, initiate it few times in a day. If you find yourself always instigating sex, then stop for a  week and see how your partner reacts to changing her/his role. If you normally start touching the genital area, start by giving a backrub, which will turn into a front rub. Change is the most critical part here.